I know it’s been heavy on the music posts for the last week and then some, so I’m going in a bit of a different direction today. Recently I had an event happen that reminded me of the importance of perception and gratitude in life. Something we all easily forget.
A few weeks ago I received the phone call that somebody close to me had passed away. While it wasn’t completely unexpected, it still came as a shock. During my grieving the thing I repeatedly found myself coming back to was wishing she could call just one more time. I wanted a last phone call where I could properly appreciate it. Where I wouldn’t be absorbed in my head making my to-do list or working on something else at the same time. I wouldn’t be short because I was left frustrated from work and the last thing I wanted to do was talk. I wanted a simple conversation where I was present and could be grateful in the interest and care she always had in my life.
This situation made me really stop and think each day about what I took for granted and what I needed to cherish more. In our lives we’re constantly at a non-stop pace. We multitask. We always look forward instead of the here and now. It’s too easy to get wrapped up in everything and lose sight of the little things.
Now I know myself too well to think something like a gratitude journal would work. I’d do it for a few days, only to not keep up with it. I instead will occasionally take moments as I experience them and be grateful in the present. I think not having guidelines to things, I’m far more likely to make this an attitude and life change rather than a short lived obligation.
I took some inspiration from The Hunger Games too I’ll admit. I re-read the series and a certain line stuck with me. In the end of the third book (minor spoiler warning if you haven’t read them) after the war Katniss is struggling to stay present so she decides to focus on kindness.
“That’s when I make a list in my head of every act of goodness I’ve seen someone do.”
I have noticed this easy act of remembering the little things in my life I should appreciate has helped my mood. In just a short amount of time I’ve noticed my emotions being more stable, having less off days, and experiencing things like frustration less.
I want to share a few of the small things I’ve found myself ruminating over and appreciating in the last few days.
- My friends and family support me wholeheartedly on my unconventional career path.
- Having health insurance after feeling the worry of only a few brief hours in limbo without it.
- My GRAMMYs Drinking Game getting over 1,000 hits in the span of a few days, my best post yet!
- Discovering another person I know has a One Direction obsession I can freak out with
- My grandpa being 85 and still all there. Every conversation is full of wit and depth.
- The ability and means to travel. Including being able to treat my loved ones to travel too.
- Finding new friends in the Blogisphere. I got to know some lovely people over The GRAMMYs on Twitter.
- Having a night out with one of my best friends full of laughter and adventure.
- Minnesota having had an easy winter so far. Hopefully it stays that way. (Sorry Bostonians!)
- Being told I make the best latte froth.
- There’s always more new good music to discover and fall in love with.
Taking note of these things remind me that there’s good in each day. That no matter how bad things can get I do strongly believe there is something to be grateful for and something to laugh about. At least one. None of these things are exceptional, but all of these moments have positively impacted my day or life. It’s good to remember that practicing gratitude has far further reaching effects than thankfulness.
What are little moments you take for granted? How do you practice gratitude?
P.S. – For more of my ramblings of life and perspective, try out The Happiness Perspective series.
Until next time,